Untying the Knot

In a marriage, two become one.  Two different cultures and backgrounds integrate to create a new distinct family DNA.  Two people intentionally create a new life together with new concepts and values blended in with some old ones.  New memories and traditions are made and shared.  It's like a collection of highly specialized and unique cells formed to make a familial bond and then multiplied over and over within.  Each of them containing a mishmash of material, tangible and intangible, fused together by this one union.  

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Now imagine trying to separate all that back to two singular entities.  Imagine the pulling, the tearing and ripping apart.  It's impossible to do so without causing pain, confusion, and destruction.  The end result is a lot of brokenness; a huge mess of emotions.  It's not pretty. 

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This is what divorce is like.  Some want to paint this picture that it's not so difficult to turn the page and start over again.  It's not like that at all.  It's an open wound of despair, requiring cleansing, detoxing and dressing.  It takes time and lots of intentionalities to heal.  It demands our unpacking.  It involves lots of talks and walks with God and working through the pain.  Then there's the learning and unlearning that needs to happen so you can become a better version of yourself.  It's a major feat. 

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I'm convinced this is why the Word says God hates divorce.  But even so, I am equally certain that in some cases it is the best decision.  To some, it is a spring of hope in a very dangerously arid and hot desert.  It's where He shows up in all His mercy, grace and glory.  It's where He nails the anger, shame, rejection and all that hurt to the wooden cross.  It's where one can experience His redeeming love.  It is truly an unexpectedly beautiful place to be.  

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-❤️lina

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